Taking time to catch the passing moments


We hear it all the time: “Time flies by when you’re having fun!” And it truly does, because if you’re not having fun things seem to take forever or feel sluggish.

It never fails that the things that seem more fun seem to happen faster. Example: The last day of a fun trip or vacation feels as if it is the second day and not the fifth or sixth, yet your chores seem to feel like all-day affairs.

But things change when you have kids. You start hearing things like, “They’ll grow up before you know it” or “They grow up so fast.” Those are phrases that I relate to more recently, as I hear it quite often.

My wife and I have two children, Charlotte Mae is just over 2-and-a-half years old, and Alfie Everette just hit 10 months. Charlotte Mae was already walking by 10 months, where Alfie Everette is happily taking his time; he is speed crawling across the house trying to keep up with his big sister, getting into everything she gets into and laughing at almost everything she does. But sometimes it feels like she was his size just a few weeks ago, when it was really almost two years ago that she was his size.

Anna Barbara and I were discussing just a day or two ago how amazed we are at Charlotte Mae’s speech basically doubling, or even tripling in the past few days alone.

It feels like just a few months ago she was speaking in fragmented statements that needed deciphering from a cryptologist or someone with a doctorate degree. But she is nearly carrying on full conversations today. This may not seem like much, but for a toddler, who is still figuring out the world around them, this can be a big deal.

These little people in our life are growing up so fast. Some days it feels like our life will flash before our eyes and they’ll be adults, but that is a long time from now. Until then, I want to stay in these moments, I want to enjoy them as much as I can. I want to cherish each of these little moments.

Yes, I fully appreciate the fact that she is carrying on more and more conversations with us, but I also want to enjoy these moments of watching her grow, watching her discover this great big world around her.

I am more understanding when people say phrases like “they grow up so fast.” They do grow fast, but I want to enjoy each of those phases of growing up that they go through just as much as the next.

Whether it’s her telling me about her day and how she played with certain toys, or went to the store or swim lessons with her mommy, or even excitedly telling me how many times she went in the potty that day. Each of those are moments, and — yes, they may be fleeting at times — are worth slowing down to enjoy.

Tony Feagin is a member of The Daily Record newsroom staff. He may be reached at 910-745-7874 or tfeagin@mydailyrecord.com.


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